A Different View

Based on the response I was getting from the comments, I knew that I needed to show a different perspective.  I thought about interviewing my dad, but I was more interested in how the teenage boy's mind works.  I decided to ask my friend (let's just call him Joe) if he would be willing to answer a few questions for me.  I tried to make it as casual as possible.  We had our conversation over text and I tried to make it not seem like an interview.
I'll give you a little background information from what I learned about Joe while texting him.  Joe said that of the girls he has dated, he considers three to be significant relationships.  The longest of those three lasted for seven months.  I haven't known Joe for very long, but in the time that I have known him, I would say he is a typical teenage guy and can be a flirt at times, but he really is a good guy, a great guy actually.  I told him about how my dad is constantly warning me about high school boys.  He always tells me that high school boys want one thing and one thing only.  I asked Joe what he thought about that and he said there are good guys out there but they tend to be looked over.  They aren't always the best-looking guys and that girls seem to get caught up in how attractive a guy is and miss out.  According to Joe, he said he would consider himself a good guy though because he tries to treat a girl the best he can and isn't after that one thing my dad has always warned me about.
I was curious as to what guys are attracted to when they see a girl.  Joe said that he is usually drawn in by her facial structure, but particularly her eyes and teeth.  I mean, I have heard people say that a girl's smile is the prettiest part about her.  He told me that honestly, how attractive a girl is is what he is most interested in, but that isn't the only factor.  A personality is what keeps the girl around.  If she is pretty but has no personality, Joe said he has no interest in her.  He said it's important for both to be present.
"If a girl thinks about her future with a guy, it's normal.  If a guy thinks about his future with a girl, he's serious."  This is a quote I have seen possibly everywhere: Twitter, Pinterest, Facebook, you name it.  In my first post I mentioned how girls my age are already planning their dream weddings.  It's easy for them to have control of things like whether they want a ballgown or A-line style dress or what the color scheme should be.  The one thing they cannot control, no matter what they want to believe, they don't know who that man will be standing at the end of the aisle.  But hey, a girl can dream right?!  Joe said that no, guys obviously don't dream about all the little details but he admits to wondering who he will marry.  He said that he doesn't care about how the wedding goes, as long as he marries the girl of his dreams.  However, guys will also date girls based on a not so distant picture of the future.  If they can't picture dating a girl, then they won't try to pursue it.  Overall, yes, guys do think about the future despite what most people think.
I know that Joe's view could be very different from a lot of guys, but still it is a guy's point of view.  I was actually surprised by some of the similarities.  It made me realize that not all guys are monsters (sorry, that might be too harsh of a word) and that there truly are great guys out there who care about and hope for a great future with someone they love.